Non-Monogamy on OkCupid – OkCupid

At OkCupid, we welcome everyone and support all types of relationships, including non-monogamous ones.

If you're in a non-monogamous relationship and would like to use OkCupid, follow these guidelines:

1. One profile per person: no couple/joint profiles

We only allow one person per profile. We do not allow couples/joint profiles, and will delete (or possibly ban) these profiles if they're reported to us.

The reason behind it is that other people on OkCupid have set their preferences so they can see the types of people they're interested in. Having one profile per person means that you're only seen by those who really want to see you. It's better for everyone.

2. Set your profile as non-monogamous

Desktop:

Click on your profile icon located in the top right-hand corner
Click on the pencil icon located next to your name
On the right side of the screen, click on the fields to open up your profile Details
Locate Relationship, and click through which relationship type you identify with.
You will then be asked to choose your current relationship status

Note: If you’re partnered or married, your relationship type can be set only to non-monogamous. You can adjust your relationship status to Single if you’d like to make adjustments.

Note: If you have more than one partner, feel free to mention them in your Profile Essay instead. Here's an example:

3. Find people open to non-monogamy

If you've set your profile to be non-monogamous, you will see only other people who are non-monogamous or open to non-monogamy. Hooray!

Be open and honest about yourself and what you're looking for. Let people know that you're in a relationship. Tell them who your partner is and if you date together or separately.
It's important to respect people's relationship choices, so you'll want to make sure you're only looking for people open to non-monogamous relationships.
As always, our community guidelines apply.
- If you are in a relationship and are dating outside of that relationship without your partner's consent and/or without disclosing your relationship status, that is a violation of our community guidelines and will get your profile banned.
- We do not allow sexually-oriented first messages on OkCupid. Even if someone is looking for hookups and is non-monogamous, that does not mean they want to hear about your sexual preferences right away.